I have a mind that tells me I know what everything means, literally – I don’t think I ever have to look anything up and I basically think I could teach all the college courses I take – it’s pretty bad.
SOOOOoooo I thought I knew what being an introvert was…and I sure wasn’t one of those…ya’ know…a hermit, a hoarder, someone that does all their shopping online and has food delivered all the time.
However, I recently came across this great comic which described very clearly the difference between an introvert and an extrovert.
Who would’ve thunk it? I am a TRUE introvert! Scary, since I have so many commitments with people, teach yoga and a lot of my life revolves around being with and serving others. Hallelujah and Praise God that I have a husband and family who totally get me and when Mama needs to go home…Mama needs to go home. Ya know what I mean?
For instance, yesterday I went out to a breakfast gathering with friends and expended a lot of energy talking. Then I came home and had lunch at home with another friend and we spent a good couple of hours sharing and talking. Then…that was it.
It was 2:00pm and I was fried. I couldn’t even speak. I took a nap, watched football, took another nap and made hand gestures and grunted to my sweet husband who just laid next to me and was quiet. He knew I was re-charging my battery. (I often visualize Seven of Nine in Star Trek the Next Generation having to plug herself in at night – that is totally me.)
I used to beat myself up for tending to “isolate” and, for years I had quite a different picture of who I thought I wanted to be. But now after reading Dr. Carmellas lovely little cartoon above I am SOOO grateful I know how I operate!
So I crack myself up when I scroll through my Facebook posts and blog, because to any outsider I am clearly and extrovert…but to those who “know” me, they understand this is my way of connecting and sharing of myself without expending the actual energy. Facebook and other social media have opened up a world of connection to me. One of my best teachers is Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and his teachings on Non-Violent Communication. He has helped me to learn how to identify my needs and meet them through means that work for me. One of my BIGGEST needs is connection, and for years I would use strategies to meet my need for connection which totally wiped me out. Now I know I can meet my need for connection while conserving my emotional energy.
When I finally “got” myself I became a much better manager of time and energy. I am sharing this with all of you in the hopes you don’t wait any longer take a good look at how you gain your energy and fill up your cup. If you are an introvert like me don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for quiet time to fill up your cup!